So I became a mother at the age of 18 years, while many say that is a young age, at that time I wasn't thinking about that.
When you're pregnant many will tell you different things to expect and their own experiences, but when you have your child the experience ain't always the same. So if you are thinking about becoming a mom, or you're already in the expecting months it's ok to listen to what others got to say based on their experience because you can learn a few things, but, just keep in mind that you're not necessarily going to go through the same things.
While I was pregnant with my first child I didn't get morning sickness and could eat whatever I wanted. The only thing that sent me to the bathroom was Cow Foot Soup and my second child no morning sickness either but I had to eat pepper so I didn't feel bad but the last child I was sick the entire pregnancy and I could barely eat anything. Now you see all pregnancy was somewhat different and guess what all were boys.
During labor my first time I went in there screaming even whilst pushing but then I realized that the pushing was so easy and no noise was required ( but because I watched movies and heard other's experience I thought that is how we should behave). My second son in the labor room I didn't make any noise and didn't make any noise whilst contracting but my last he was the most painful and the experience was so different.
After I had my first child I didn't know anything, there was no guidance and everything had me going to the clinic because I was so scared that something would happen to him. I was so careful with him. Many times when you become a first-time mom or parent your thought is always to spoil your first child which in my case I didn't do and you know now that he's older I'm so glad I didn't because by not spoiling he understands what it is to be satisfied with what he has and to take care of the things he has as well as understanding the value of the things he gets.
The most important thing I learned being a parent is that when it comes to discipline many will have a lot to say but how you choose to discipline your child is all up to you. For example my first child I always would spank him for giving trouble, touching things he wasn't supposed to, and not buying him things he wanted when he misbehaves ( this was my way of disciplining my first child). Now my second son I was told not to do this and not to do that and that by me disciplining him the way I did my first child that I was not a good mom. So I allowed things to happen the way someone else dictated them to be, which of course was my mistake, now he doesn't have discipline and doesn't value the things he has because I listened to other people. Now that I have decided to start disciplining him the way I started to at first he is now learning and becoming more appreciative of the things he has and those that said I was a bad mom realized that discipline is not a bad thing but a must-do from an early age.
With all 3 of my children, I learned something new, and trust me while some things were similar to others majority was different. So if you're becoming a first-time mom or parent it's ok to look to others for advice but at the end of the day what you experience may be different and you may need to go about doing things your own way.
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