Cheating is something that has been happening for many years, but it has become even more common to the point it's rare to find a non-cheater.
Many people get in a relationship with hopes of building a future with the person they get with, however, there are those that get in a relationship just because they don't want to be alone or they want to get over their previous relationship. There's a lot of reason why people choose to be in a relationship and many times it's for the wrong reasons. For many years people used cheating for fun or in men's case it made them feel virile (macho). Some men/women would cheat because the relationship they had was lacking something or there were issues that made them and their partner feel distant and for others, they were captivated by the feeling they felt when they had more than one partner.
Now, cheating is a norm, it's not something based on lack anymore or based on the distance between a couple. It's now all based on everyone is doing it and if I'm cheated on then why don't I cheat too. Cheating in this century is like a trend whereby everyone's using the latest fashion or involved in the same app and this makes it hard for those who are looking for a relationship that will last, or that will lead to a lifetime commitment. That is why many are heartbroken, many get insecure and many are just too afraid to try a relationship with anyone. This is also why many women start dating the opposite sex because they feel that dating a woman will be much better because the percentage of women cheating is less than the percentage of men who cheat.
I was told once that it takes two to cheat, so should we only blame men? No!. A man cannot cheat if a woman doesn't agree. Many times we as women would be the ones who blame men for being unfaithful but the fact is, a man can't cheat if the other woman doesn't agree to be with them. There are times when women don't know when a man is taken and so they unknowingly get with that man. Now when that woman finds out that the man has someone before them there are a few women that end the relationship but then, there are the ones that become jealous and want to keep the relationship so they try to get the first woman out of the picture, There's also the one's that don't care and just keep being the "side piece".
Cheating is not Ok. Just because a lot of other people are doing it doesn't mean it's right. A relationship was made to lead to a marriage, and marriage was meant to last a lifetime. So when you cheat, you cause insecurities to the parties involved as well as hurt to the individual/individuals that seriously loved or cared for you. When you get in a relationship for the wrong reason or with the wrong intentions, you cause damage and so when the right person does come along it's because the damage you left causes that person's chance of being happy to be severely reduced.
When someone cheats it's always a choice. Don't ever believe that it's your fault or let them tell you that you caused them to cheat because even when you're in the moment, there's always that little thought that slips in and tells you that what your doing is wrong. Even when they say "I wasn't in my right mind" or " I wasn't thinking straight" trust me at some point through the entire event they did think of you and still continued. The only time cheating is really a mistake is when the person comes clean to you about it, admits their wrong, and makes sure it never happens again otherwise continuously cheating is a choice and can do more harm to a person's emotions and mental state.
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