Many of us face difficult times in life and the difficulties are not labeled off by gender, culture, or age. Everyone will face a challenging time at some point, some may have the strength to pull through, but many have difficulties even getting up off the ground. These are the ones that face things alone and are often not looked on.
People these days have learned to cloak their pain with a fake smile and an "I'm alright" when truly they're having it really hard both mentally and emotionally but they have learned that not everyone cares and finding someone who truly does is like looking for a needle in a haystack.
As I write this I reflect on instances of my own life where I had to bury my emotions and my mental distress way down because the support I would want to get was not there and probably still isn't there and even though I survived those moments not many is that fortunate to do so.
Having struggles mentally is the worst and when you have no one there to help you it's even harder because it makes you feel like your going crazy and like life itself is too much. Mental struggles can be caused by someone having so many expectations of you and you're trying to meet them all. It can be questions of self-worth because of many failed relationships or by not being noticed by a parent. Many may say that these are simple reasons to go through mental struggles but you never know why it's a struggle for someone else until you end up going through them yourself.
As individuals, I don't know if we lost our sense of empathy but when someone struggling would reach out, the advice told are sometimes words like a sharp blade which doesn't help but instead causes more damage. It's so sad. If someone is struggling we ought to be careful of what we say because not everyone has the strength that we do and our words can cause even more damage than is already there.
Through my struggles both mentally and emotionally it was really hard and I had to endure them alone but my strength was my children. I learned that in this life you can't depend on others to help you because not everyone is sincere. I was also able to discover that there are many things available online that can help in some way. Plus during those times I learned that I had to change my way of thinking because the more I focused on what was causing me to have a mental and emotional break the more I found myself sinking.
Many of us don't have the strength or a reason to get out of that dark place but just believing that there is hope and there is a way is going to make a difference. Our thoughts just need to be changed. If we change our thoughts, we then change our outcome. We also need to remove ourselves from around the people and situations that cause us to be in this state because keeping ourselves in and around them will not help us when we're trying to make a positive change in ourselves. I know many will say I can't, or it's impossible but to be honest, we can do anything we put our minds to. Sometimes we are our only holdbacks and I learned that after going through a whole year of mental struggle and even though sometimes I feel myself falling back into that dark place, I learned not to stay there by, focusing on my reason to have come out of that state and as well listening and reading the things that uplift my spirit and give me peace.
Maybe for me that works but for others, it may not, however trying good things, that may help in getting us to being in a better mental and emotional state is always worth trying as long as it's not harmful. As well to those that don't know what it's like battling your own self daily, don't be judgemental or be harsh because no reason is not a reason, meaning just because you don't see that persons meaning for going through that state as worth it doesn't mean it's not. We all go through our own struggles of life and we all have different ways that it affects us so we need to be considerate about what we say, how we react, and what we do in regards to the way we treat someone in this state.
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